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I Am Finally Back

It’s been a rough year and while this year was an overall loss, I did manage to get something back. I’m back in blogging and writing form, baby.

For a couple of months now, I’ve been able to keep this blog up and running daily while tossing in some pretty nice content. I have struggled this year to give even a small amount of “f-ck” for blogging but I made it.

I really can’t stand this year and I know I will not be able to be the good person I thought I was; but that doesn’t mean this blog has to suffer, ya know? But I can feel it; like, I have things to write about and I can’t manage them all. My drafts are piling up. It’s so exciting!

Like, for most of the year, it was a struggle to think of one thing to write about. Now, I can write about anything.

As for my sports writing, it’s going pretty well. I’ve still got the touch, apparently. I started a weekly feature on the site I write for and it’s already doing pretty well. I am flexing my muscles again. I’m getting stronger with the pen.

I am finally back. I’ve made some progress on a couple of plays I’ve been working on for years and I think I want to start a new one.

It’s good to be back. Now we just have to make sure I can stay.

Dante’s Opinion: Should I Just Be A Mean Person?

This was a dark story, kids. But, this is easy to handle. Let’s go:

Ok so I’ve always been a very nice and kind person. I’m willing to help out others and favors but at times it ends up badly. I had some friends that thought I was such a sweetheart and fun to be around with but they NEVER EVER invited me anywhere and also when we make plans and they just blow me off. Some lied and said they had to cancel or work but in reality, they went to other events and they even said it right in front of me. I didn’t want to look upset but I just brushed it off and told them it was ok. My dad has been warning me that those people aren’t my friends and he’s seen the way they have treated me. My dad told me that the problem is is that I’m way too nice to people and you forgive them when they hurt me and sometimes I’m going to have to be a but rude to avoid being hurt. I don’t like being mean. I’m too nice, soft and polite. I always obey my teachers, follow EVERY rule and I just can’t be mean. My peers got very annoyed with me because I never get angry when someone does bad to me or don’t get into trouble. One of them said, “Jeez, do you EVER get in trouble?”

Anyways They invited me to a graduation party and said they would call me. I went home and got ready. I called them but they didn’t answer. I called 4 times and they didn’t answer. Then I called the house phone and her dad picked up and told me she and her friends left an hour ago. I was hurt and shocked and ended up not going and missing the party. I heard the girls encouraged her not to call me or not have me tag along. I was HURT when I say that. My dad was like, Shut up! Just shut up. I don’t wanna hear it. I TOLD you they weren’t your friends! I’ve been trying to tell you that for months. To put it bluntly, you need to stop being so nice and be more assertive!” My mom said, “We tried to keep you from getting hurt and you got MAD! You had no right to get angry at us. You wouldn’t listen. Time to find some new friends.”

Whew! This is one of the longest sto-eh, well let me go ahead and answer.

Your parents are right about this:

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Dante’s Opinion: Can A 17 Year Old Date A 19 Year Old?

A tough question:

Is it okay for a 17 year old to date a 19/nearly 20 year old?

Okay, I am going to say yes, but this is a weird situation. Thing is, this is an adult dating a minor so, technically, this is creepy. But then, there’s barely an age gap. Like, this age gap really doesn’t exist; but there is a wall between you.

In the end, y’all can go out to movies and dinner but you’d better wait on anything physical. Wait until you are both adults. But yeah, dating doesn’t have to even go that far so there’s no issue here.

My first sister and I are roughly 3 years apart. We’re both in our 20s but would I be comfortable with her at 17 dating someone my age (20)? Eeeehhhh…not completely but, again, if they ain’t doing anything, his penis wouldn’t be in jeopardy, then there’s nothing really wrong with it. I would just have to get over my feelings while also probably stalking them on dates like the ninja I am.

Have fun!

Dante’s Opinion: Would You Let Your Parents Pick Your Partner?

This is gonna be good:

Would you ever let your parents pick out a partner for you?

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Okay…okay…okay…

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Dante’s Opinion: Should My Husband Support My Friend’s Affair?

Did you read that question? I mean, what? I don’t even get it. Here’s the story:

My best friend and I are very close and like sisters. In a few weeks she’s coming for a visit for the weekend for a big event we are attending, and wants my husband and I to go on a double date with her for the event. The problem is, her date is a married man, who is still with his wife and kids, but is sneaking away with her for the weekend. My husband has said he doesn’t agree with the relationship and does not want to go out with them, under any circumstance…he told me if I want to go, I can go alone. I don’t agree with her relationship either and have told her, but ultimately it’s her choice. I don’t want to go with them, but I don’t want to ruin my friendship with my best friend either. I also definitely don’t want to go alone…. I’m already uncomfortable and this will make it worse. I think my husband should suck it up and go in support of me, but he is refusing. What should I do? I respect his right to refuse, but think he should not leave me to go alone with them. I have met him, but I have never been anywhere with them because we live in different cities and he’s usually unable to come when we are visiting one another. They will be in a hotel nearby for the whole weekend, and want us to all spend a lot of time together. Help!

Alright……this is a lot to process. I…

Okay, so we have a few points that jump out at me:

  • If your friendship is ruined because you refuse to participate in low moral standard activities, you might have a problem with your relationship in general.
  • Your only option is to tell your friend that you indeed cannot play a part of this. (more on that later)
  • You say you don’t want to go, but you also expect your husband to play along too. Huh?

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Dante’s Opinion: What’s the Best Way to Show Someone You Love Them?

Cute question:

What’s the Best Way to Show Someone You Love Them?

The best way?

Usually, I show people I love them by two main things: Acts of service and fierce loyalty. I do things for people when they ask for it or just because. I am also a very loyal person. I will fight with and for you no matter what. I’m an excellent teammate; a true point gaurd who will toss out assist after assist.

People who take advantage of that are banished forever. I don’t play that.

That’s how I show love for people.

I don’t think there is a best way because people receive love differently. People express love differently. So many ways to feel and show love means that not everybody will respond the same. You sort of have to figure out how that person reacts to things and then you can figure out how to show them love based on their…”preference”.