Dante’s Opinion: Is It Rude to Call Someone A Hoe?

As you might expect from this title, things are about to get real.

Yesterday, my classmates and I were discussing the topic of virginity and all of them have lost their virginity except for me. Since I am 22, most of my friends thought it was weird I haven’t lost it yet and this one girl was making fun of me for being a prude. I responded by telling her that I can at least take comfort in the fact I am not a herpes infested hoe like you. This girl I responded to does have genital herpes. Was I being rude to this girl?

Ooooooooooooooh! I hate it when people attack your virginity. I mean, your response was out of control and I guess we can say “rude”. But, if you’re like me, you were probably frustrated as this isn’t the first time you’ve been mocked for being a virgin.

Yeah, you did a low blow there. Aye, it was nice, but not appropriate. Here’s the thing though:

  • Someone with herpes didn’t necessarily get it from being a hoe. All it takes is one partner one time and you’re done.
  • There could have been an issue with non sexual contact too. Odds are, she slept with somebody, but it’s not 100% way of getting the virus.

You should probably apologize for that remark. I say probably because…oh fine. You should apologize. I personally would likely not because that’s what kind of guy I am: A big a-hole. But yeah, the right thing to do is apologize.

Family

What is family? Who is our family? How do we define family members?

What I have seen very recently is that there are two ways of looking at things. Some people believe that the only people in the family are biologically related to you. Others see a mixture of both.

I see it as the second. I am a believer in that anybody can be family because of another belief I have: It’s something you earn.

From a biblical standpoint, Jesus even supports the idea that being biologically related is not the only way to have family. As He was dying, He tells one of His disciples to meet his mother; and it just so happened that this mother was Mary, the mother of Jesus. Jesus told His mother than this disciple was now her son.

With that in mind, I believe that people from all walks of life are eligible to be a brother, sister, father, whatever. You can grow with people outside of the bloodline and become as close as anybody.

Blood relatives have a head start: They are family from the beginning. They have that title. Here’s the thing: They can lose it.

Not everybody will agree with me on this, and that’s fine. But, guess what? I don’t care. Consider this example.

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Dante’s Opinion: Is My Friend Right In Telling Me to Kill Myself?

Oh Jesus have mercy.

My friend told me to jump in front of a car and end it all this is the third time he’s said this. He said it’s for everyone’s benefit I’m starting to think he’s right.

No, you don’t want to kill yourself. Why would he say this? It’s-

Wait…

Hold up…

“My friend”. That’s your friend? YOUR FRIEND? That’s not a friend. That is evil. I don’t care what his logic is; that’s sick. No, you need to cut this guy loose real quick.

Don’t talk to him again. Don’t let those thoughts sink in. Don’t believe what he is telling you.

Dante’s Opinion: How Do I Handle My Hatred for My Girlfriend’s Cat?

This is a really dark question. Take a look at this:

I have an extreme hatred for my girlfriends cat and I feel like I can’t control it much longer. It’s hard to explain, but here goes. I absolutely ******* despise cats. I think they are the single most annoying things on earth. And my girlfriend just brought one home a few months ago. And I can’t take it anymore. I hate this thing so deeply, I feel sick about it. I look at it and. I sometimes feel like I’m losing control with it. I feel like my sight starts to fade and I’m approaching a blackout and I just want to attack it.

It’s this intense feeling of hatred and anger and I feel like I just need to make it feel some kind of extreme pain. I want it to hurt. This thing is nothing but a little ***** that walks around my house knocking **** off the tables, scratching the paint off my walls and walking under my feet. I want to burn it while it’s still alive. Every time it looks at me, I get angry. I just want it to die. I don’t even want to give it to someone… I just want to kill it. I don’t want it to have a life. I want this ******* thing to suffer. Has ANYONE ever felt this strongly about anything or anyone? I’m losing my ******* mind. Like I said, I hate it. I don’t want it. I don’t want to give it to anyone either. I just want to kill it. And this is the only animal I have ever felt this way about. Oh my god, i cant ******* handle it.

Um…….

I have been close about feeling like that with someone but this is intense.

I needed some time to process what I’m going to say here. I think I got a few things.

For one, based off of what you said, there is something seriously wrong with you. I’m not attacking you; feeling this way about this animal is not normal. Blacking out into a rage at the sight of it is not a good sign.

You’ll need to consider some professional help. You’ll also need to let your girlfriend know you’re not comfortable (I guess to put it lightly) with the cat at the crib. See if you can get some help. If that’s not working for you, it’s time for the cat to go. Now, either your girlfriend leaves with the cat or not. It’s up to her. It’s only been a few months; maybe she’s not to attached to it.

Don’t kill the cat, man. Don’t do it. They have too many lives; it’ll come back and with a vengeance. Seriously, don’t kill the cat.

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Dante’s Opinion: What Should My Kids Eat for Dinner?

I’m…here’s the question:

What should my kids have for dinner tonight?

1) McDonalds
2) Sonic
3) Pizza Hut
4) Taco Bell
5) Wendy’s

Those are my choices as I’m watching TV tonight and will not be cooking. Which one?

Let’s see…

Here’s what I think about McDonalds.

So that leaves us with four options.

Okay, actually, no Taco Bell for me. Love the food but my love affair with my toilet needs to end.

Down to three. I mean, if you don’t want to go anywhere, Pizza Hut is the only option. But, the best food out of the last three…I’d go with Sonic. Yeah, go with Sonic.

Dante’s Opinion: Can You Really Call Someone Not Related to You A Sibling?

Someone really went in on my personal life, haha. Okay, bring it on.

I was reading your blog and you talk about how you have a sister who isn’t related to you. How does that work for you? Do you have no romantic feelings? How do other actual family members take it? I guess I’m asking about the overall dynamic of your relationship. I know this guy who is really close to me but I don’t really “like like” him. Is it okay to call him a brother? Is it worth it? People automatically think we should date and stuff like that but idk.

Fine. Since you asked, I have to be honest: I don’t know how our relationship works completely. Sometimes I look at it as a selective relationship. She’s my sister but I shift and say friend when it’s convenient or appropriate.

For example, when filling out a job application, you may run into a question of something like “do you have relatives working for some other company that is a rival of ours?” and I say no. Fact is, we both work in retail. I got my job after hers and I said no, no relative of mine works in retail in direct competition of yours. That whole “conflict of interest” stuff.

I treat her like my sister but, the world doesn’t care unless it’s blood or paperwork involved.

What I mean is, from a “legal” standpoint, we have nothing to do with one another. In the end, the only two people that believe in this relationship are she and I. It seems to work for us at this time though I know for a fact there are people that believe we are an…item.

See, there are things I would do with my bio sisters that I would think twice about doing with my “adoptive” sister. Hugging and other forms of physical contact to show affection are avoided on my part simply out of fear for what people will read into. For her sake, since she’s not exactly single, I would just want to avoid any confusion.

Part of the issue is it’s not really a big established fact that the two of us are siblings. I don’t think we need to broadcast it, but I think ignorance of the reality we live in leads people to assume something fairly logical about us. We hang out at church all of the time. Shoot, she sat with me and my bio sisters in church throughout her childhood. Like, we’ve been seen together for years and it doesn’t register for everybody.

The question about romantic feelings. Okay, well, I have to admit there is something there for me. It’s nothing serious but I think because I am fully aware that we are not actual biological siblings, I sort of just allow those feelings to come and go. We both seem to understand that anything can happen. I don’t know how she feels but if I had to guess, it’s extreme platonic.

When dealing with blood relatives, I refer to her as my friend. Yeah, I do. It feels a little weird to say this person is my sibling because then they would be related to her as well but not really and it’s just somewhat awkward to me. I have run into cases where I tell relatives “she’s like a sister to me” and then they find it very important to remind me that “she’s not really your sister”.

But, that’s the thing, she IS my sister. One of these days I’m gonna talk about how blood just isn’t enough for me. I consider this girl more family than actual family. Most of us have people like that in our lives. It just happens.

For you and your friend, I can only give you my opinion based off of my real life experience, as you are aware of. My sister does this better than I do but you will simply have to ignore what others say. The relationship you have is your own. If your love is at a platonic place, then that’s where it is. Don’t worry about if that’s right or wrong. Don’t worry if that’s considered normal or not.

My sister and I have an understanding of our relationship and we’re comfortable in it. I think the moment we allow what others think about is determine what we do will ruin our relationship. I think that’s the same for you.