Dante Opinion

Dante’s Opinion: When is it okay to hit a woman?

Hahaha, I saw this question and I just HAD to answer.

When is it ok to hit a woman? Not to offend anyone, but you know how like women are allowed to hit men when they act like pigs etc. When or is a man ever allowed to smack a woman? Like say she attacks him or something is it ok then?

Ah. Let me take a sip of this juice I have here.

*gulp*

I am a man. So many genders out there we should really be asking about-ah, let me stop. I am a man.

So, this is from a man’s perspective.

I’m so scared.

Alright, so let me address your example. From a legal standpoint, no one should be hitting anybody, regardless of gender. Unfortonately for us guys, getting hit (or abused) is a lose-lose situation. If strike back, we’re monsters. If we lay back and accept it (or even run away), we’re babies. You just can’t win.

Women, from some sort of double standard moral thing are “allowed” to hit men. This is true. This. Is. True. (so the first letters of those three words spell “tit”; I am very immature. I might be a child)

ANYWAY…

So, in the case of defending yourself…ah…I need another drink.

*gulp*

F me.

Ah…….okay…..nope….I’m just gonna rip the bandage off and to heck with possible blood squirting from the not quite healed cut.

Yup, you can beat her up. F it. Look, if I’m cornered by a woman with a gun pointed right to my face, I will do whatever the heck I need to do to survive. Screw your code. I am punching, kicking, slapping (pimp and otherwise), and Good Times theme songing out of the situation.

I really dislike double standards, honestly. I don’t understand why it’s okay for guys to say or do and women are crazy for doing and saying the same. Honestly, that’s all I am gong to say because it’s a battle I will certainly lose. I give up.

Dante’s Opinion: If my girlfriend is pregnant, do I have to propose?

Today’s question is something I think about sometimes as a possible scenario I run into.

If my girlfriend is pregnant, do I have to propose?

Hm, that’s an interesting question.

I look at my parents. I was out of wedlock. When I, uh…”showed up” my parents were like “might as well”, but, the thing is, from what they told me, they were really on that path anyway. They were basically high school sweethearts and I showed up during their college years so they knew each other and had an established relationship.

That was their decision that may have been accelerated because of me showing up. Sometimes I don’t believe that, though. Sometimes I feel like I’m the only reason why they jumped into marriage. That feeling will likely never go away and sometimes I feel bad because what if they didn’t really want to go that far together? All of these years later, they seem to be doing extremely well so I guess it worked out.

There are plenty of people who have, what I assume from your question, an unplanned pregnancy. A long time ago, (perhaps during my parent’s era) it was expected to get married to the mother of your kid(s) (shame on those of you for having multiple kids out of wedlock!!!!!).

But, honestly, marriage is outside of the kid. It’s outside of being a parent. It’s not an ideal scenario, but you can raise a kid outside of marriage quite easily if you work on it. If you are entering a marriage just because of Billy, you…

If you love your girlfriend and can see yourself with her, then go for it. But if you are EXCLUSIVELY putting on a ring because of Billy, it would appear you would be in a loveless marriage. It would appear you would end up in a constant state of “what if” and regret. But, I think, you should not “have to” do that.

Marriage is serious and involves a full commitment to your spouse; not to raising a kid. You f’d up and had this kid out of wedlock and not getting married means you are raising a kid in a broken home, technically. However, as long as you are seriously active in the kid’s life, it’s really going to be okay.

Others would say you gotta do things “right”. Marry her and live with the family you made. This mistake of having the kid before the ring is not ideal, but I don’t think you getting married is going to teach you anything. Again, being a husband and being a parent are two different things with two different commitments.

Dante’s Opinion: Are my boobs too big?

Welp, I guess it had to happen at some point. Someone wants to know the story of their boob size. Haven’t we been here before? Haven’t we all either asked or been asked this?

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First of all, you are a pretty lady. But HOLY MOTHER OF A CAT’S GRANDFATHER THOSE ARE SOME BIG BOOBS! Look, whether real or not (and I won’t assume; I’m scared of backlash) those are big. You know what?

Things your boobs are bigger than:

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Dante’s Opinion: Is it my Fault my Co-worker was Embarrassed?

It’s baaaaaaaack!

In case you are new to this series, Dante’s Opinion is me answering questions given to me or stuff I find on sites like Yahoo Answers. These are not stories based off of my personal experiences.

Here’s today’s…question:

I was hanging out last week with a friend of mine, who also happens to be my co-worker, and I got a text from another co-worker out of the blue. I didn’t give him my number, but it is on Facebook , so I’m guessing he got it from there. I don’t know him too well, but I’m guessing he wanted to be my friend or something, because he acknowledged that texting me out of the blue was random, but wanted to know if I’d be interested in hanging out some time.

I showed this text to my friend (who is also of course this guy’s co-worker) and we had a pretty good laugh at it. I didn’t reply to it.

So I’m guessing my friend must have mentioned it to this guy (he apparently laughed right to his face for sending me this message). I didn’t know this until I approached him about something and he replied: “Please don’t talk to me unless it has to do with work. If you don’t want to be my friend, fine, but there was no reason to embarrass me. Like I said, don’t talk to me unless it has to do with work, but ideally I’ll never hear from you again.”

So I didn’t give him my number, he found it and helped himself to it. Did I do anything wrong or rude here? If anything I sort of feel like my friend was the rude one for laughing in the guy’s face…

Well, well, well. This has a lot of stuff in here. I want to hit on some things you said:

  • I showed this text to my friend (who is also of course this guy’s co-worker) and we had a pretty good laugh at it.
  • I didn’t reply to it.
  • So I didn’t give him my number, he found it and helped himself to it.
  • Did I do anything wrong or rude here?
  • If anything I sort of feel like my friend was the rude one for laughing in the guy’s face…

Hey…I’m about to tear you up.

Concerning your first point, why would you laugh about this? What is so funny about a guy wanting to hangout? Is he some sort of weirdo with a history of being odd? I don’t understand why you had to go there.

Your second point. You didn’t reply to it. Lord have mercy; this is your co-worker. You just avoiding this? He won’t track you down? You wasn’t man enough to decline (choosing instead to laugh at him)?

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The Future of Dante’s Optimism

As you know, (well, I talked about it often) 2016 was a crappy year all around. Family, school, church; just crap. Actually, work is doing great so that’s something but the year is just a loss. I’m ending in the red.

As I looked back on the year I, of course, was reflecting on this blog recently and whether I should bring back Daily Good Stuff. My biggest concern was if I could produce that amount of content daily like I did before. I also struggled with what the actual content would be.

As I contemplated these things, I decided to in fact, bring back Daily Good Stuff. Here’s why:

In this world of content creation, it’s very important to have a signature style. For us bloggers, it’s very critical. What I have realized is that DGS was my thing. There’s a reason the blog exploded when they were posting and then gradually slowed once it stopped. There’s a reason why 60% of my top views this year are from those posts from years ago, with another 20% being humor based as DGS was.

And so, I feel it’s a good idea to bring it back because, in a way, it’s bringing me back.

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Dante’s Best: November 2016

Another month down for Dante’s Optimism and views have gone up as well since October. That’s really nice. In fact, this is the highest views since April. I am hoping to continue the climb. Thanks for the views, homies.

In case you don’t know about this monthly post, it’s a monthly feature where I take the best posts from the month and share them with you. The best is determined by mostly my preference but also views and likes.

We’re looking at the featured posts. If I have any other types of posts, I will pick the best of those. So, it’s like this:

  • Best Dante’s Opinion for the month
  • Best Dante Positive for the month
  • Best Dante Funny for the month
  • Best non featured post for the month

Dante’s Opinion:

It came down to two posts, and they were right next to each other when they were published, but I picked my epic rant on why apples are not only better than oranges, but why they are the best fruit period. Here’s a taste:

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