The timeless debate.

Do you prefer chocolate or vanilla?

It depends. Here are three areas if we want to specify:

• Taste
• Scent
• Color

Taste

Usually, you find chocolate and vanilla via ice cream as the hot topic of which is better. I definitely prefer chocolate over vanilla ice cream. But then, it gets hard from there. There is chocolate candy but then white chocolate candy. Vanilla with the Coke or Pepsi. Chocolate and Vanilla don’t meet that often, which is really interesting. Ultimately, tasting chocolate anything is a treat while tasting vanilla is not something I do on purpose.

Scent

Have you even been to Hershey Park and ride that…I forget what it’s called but it takes you through the process of how the chocolate is made. Anyway, there’s a part of the ride that is filled with chocolate scent. It’s a nice scent. I like smelling chocolate. HOWEVER, I also like the scent of vanilla. Geez. If I go with candles, it’s going to be vanilla. You know, they have body spray with chocolate scent. When I saw that, I actually got a little sick. So yeah, vanilla.

Color

Paint. Clothes. Light (c’mon, this lighting designer HAD to mention light). These two are definitely used as identification of color. So, which is better to look at? That’s a tough call because I don’t know when I’ve seen these colors in my every day life. It’s funny; at least with the RGB color model, vanilla and chocolate are part of the same hue. Well, sort of. Chocolate is from the Orange-Brown hue while Vanilla is from the Orange-Yellow hue. That’s too funny. Since I know light, I will base my preference on that. When I look at those colors, I like the appearance of vanilla more.

So, there you have it. Out of those three categories, I guess I prefer vanilla. I literally just learned something new about myself today. Wow.

Ah, this should be interesting.

Would you forgive your partner for anything because you don’t want to be alone?

Obviously, the key element in the question is “don’t want to be alone”, with “anything” being a wide range of stuff.

But, here’s the thing, forgiving someone does not necessarily mean you’ll stay with your partner. So, I’m wondering if this question was meant to go down a path of “take him back” because of not wanting to be alone.

I can forgive anything. I’m commanded to, anyway. But, would I take you back for “anything”? No. There are some lines for me that you just can’t cross. I am not afraid of being alone. To enter and remain in a relationship to avoid that is a mistake.

Well now, let’s take a look at this one:

Ok so I’m 16 she is 15 and my friends tell me that we can’t always just be best friends but why not and that it will turn into something else? I mean sure we do spend most of our time together I get along better with her than anyone else I know we always hang out together and play games, draw or even just quietly read together cause idk it just feels nice that way.

And yeah when my college classes are over she always meets me outside and we will go hang around town and have fun. We text and facetime all the time sure but is this really weird behavior for best friends? We can stay best friends like this right?

I’m not sure where it came from that opposite genders can’t be just best friends. It’s very true that it can grow into something more simply because of how you are wired. But, it seems like it doesn’t have to be that way, automatically.

Fact is, for me, the majority of close relationships have been with a female. And I’m talking about outside of the family, here. I think the last time I had a best friend who was a guy was second grade, which is also the last time I had a best friend in general.

I think what you two do is completely adorable fine. Best friends do this all of the time. It just so happens you’re opposite genders. People can be of different races. Believe in different religions. I think anybody can be best friends with anybody.

Can it grow into something more? Sure it can. Nothing wrong with that. But, don’t let that determine your relationship. Don’t worry about what others say. You know what kind of relationship you have. You know how you feel. That’s all that matters.

I guess at some point I had to run into something close to home.

I really love my guy friend and want to be more than just friends, but he said I’m like a sister to him. Would he ever see me as something more, or is that just in movies?

Well, that’s really interesting. I have a girl who is my sister but we are not related biologically or legally. So, she would be “like a sister” to me. We’ve played with the idea or possibility of something happening but it usually ends with “anything’s possible”. I actually think it’s healthy to address it.

The thing with the two of us, we’ve had a sibling relationship and mindset since we were little kids. We’re in our 20’s now. For us, it would probably take a bit of events to turn that mindset around and become romantically involved.

I will put myself in your shoes and simply state I am in love with her. This is hypothetical. Okay, so let’s say I am in love with her and I know she’s not returning the favor at this time. Would she ever love me in that way?

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It just gets weird.

So she always texts me on weekends saying it’s time to go to bed and she sets bed times for me. And if I cuss or something, she will like take my phone or make me write sentences or make me go to bed early. I have to go to bed at 8:00 pm this Friday because I was being rude. And also I got a bad grade on a math homework and when that happened, she took my phone because she says the reason I did bad was because I stayed up on my phone. And now she prints extra math sheets for me all the time and if I don’t do them, then I get punished. And sometimes she yells at me in front of our friends. What do I do?

I’m still trying to decide if this is a real story. This might be the strangest thing I’ve run across doing this series.

Is this person like, the same age as you? The heck? I’m trying to figure out why she thinks she can treat you like this but then I flip and think, why are YOU letting this happen? She can’t just do this to you. She’s…for God’s sake she’s not your mom!

I don’t do this to my sisters, and people have accused me of being their parent. I’m gonna show them this!

You have a mom, right? Like, this friend isn’t filling in a void or something, right? I mean, there’s one thing about looking out for your friends but this is too far.

I made a mistake. I shouldn’t have taken this one. This is beyond wild. Okay; your question was what should you do.

1. Put her in her place. She is not yo momma. Keep it friendly and cool. You don’t want to start anything. But, if I’m right about this person, she’s going to escalate things.
2. Drop her as a friend…especially since she’s not acting as a friend in the first place.

No matter what, this current relationship must end. Get out of there!