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Dante’s Opinion: Do you prefer chocolate or vanilla?

The timeless debate.

Do you prefer chocolate or vanilla?

It depends. Here are three areas if we want to specify:

  • Taste
  • Scent
  • Color

Taste

Usually, you find chocolate and vanilla via ice cream as the hot topic of which is better. I definitely prefer chocolate over vanilla ice cream. But then, it gets hard from there. There is chocolate candy but then white chocolate candy. Vanilla with the Coke or Pepsi. Chocolate and Vanilla don’t meet that often, which is really interesting. Ultimately, tasting chocolate anything is a treat while tasting vanilla is not something I do on purpose.

Scent

Have you even been to Hershey Park and ride that…I forget what it’s called but it takes you through the process of how the chocolate is made. Anyway, there’s a part of the ride that is filled with chocolate scent. It’s a nice scent. I like smelling chocolate. HOWEVER, I also like the scent of vanilla. Geez. If I go with candles, it’s going to be vanilla. You know, they have body spray with chocolate scent. When I saw that, I actually got a little sick. So yeah, vanilla.

Color

Paint. Clothes. Light (c’mon, this lighting designer HAD to mention light). These two are definitely used as identification of color. So, which is better to look at? That’s a tough call because I don’t know when I’ve seen these colors in my every day life. It’s funny; at least with the RGB color model, vanilla and chocolate are part of the same hue. Well, sort of. Chocolate is from the Orange-Brown hue while Vanilla is from the Orange-Yellow hue. That’s too funny. Since I know light, I will base my preference on that. When I look at those colors, I like the appearance of vanilla more.

So, there you have it. Out of those three categories, I guess I prefer vanilla. I literally just learned something new about myself today. Wow.

Dante’s Opinion: Would you forgive your partner for anything because you don’t want to be alone?

Ah, this should be interesting.

Would you forgive your partner for anything because you don’t want to be alone?

Obviously, the key element in the question is “don’t want to be alone”, with “anything” being a wide range of stuff.

But, here’s the thing, forgiving someone does not necessarily mean you’ll stay with your partner. So, I’m wondering if this question was meant to go down a path of “take him back” because of not wanting to be alone.

I can forgive anything. I’m commanded to, anyway. But, would I take you back for “anything”? No. There are some lines for me that you just can’t cross. I am not afraid of being alone. To enter and remain in a relationship to avoid that is a mistake.

Dante’s Opinion: Can a girl and guy be best friends?

Well now, let’s take a look at this one:

Ok so I’m 16 she is 15 and my friends tell me that we can’t always just be best friends but why not and that it will turn into something else? I mean sure we do spend most of our time together I get along better with her than anyone else I know we always hang out together and play games, draw or even just quietly read together cause idk it just feels nice that way.

And yeah when my college classes are over she always meets me outside and we will go hang around town and have fun. We text and facetime all the time sure but is this really weird behavior for best friends? We can stay best friends like this right?

I’m not sure where it came from that opposite genders can’t be just best friends. It’s very true that it can grow into something more simply because of how you are wired. But, it seems like it doesn’t have to be that way, automatically.

Fact is, for me, the majority of close relationships have been with a female. And I’m talking about outside of the family, here. I think the last time I had a best friend who was a guy was second grade, which is also the last time I had a best friend in general.

I think what you two do is completely adorable fine. Best friends do this all of the time. It just so happens you’re opposite genders. People can be of different races. Believe in different religions. I think anybody can be best friends with anybody.

Can it grow into something more? Sure it can. Nothing wrong with that. But, don’t let that determine your relationship. Don’t worry about what others say. You know what kind of relationship you have. You know how you feel. That’s all that matters.

Dante’s Opinion: When is the best time to have homemade chocolate cake?

Oh this is gonna be something. Here is the question:

When is the best time to have homemade chocolate cake?

What? See, the problem with this is that the question should be “when is not the best time?” But, ya know what, here is a list of times to eat homemade chocolate cake:

  • Right now
  • At dinner time
  • On lunch break
  • At that guy you sort of knew’s funeral
  • While pooping
  • While watching…whatever
  • Saturday all the way through next Saturday
  • In front of that evil diabetic kid
  • In front of that old diabetes guy from the commercials
  • With chocolate milk
  • When you have nowhere to go so the sugar crash isn’t a problem
  • Right before the chair
  • Right before you purposefully commit a sin
  • After getting thrown out of the house by your boo and you head over to mom’s house and eat the cake she made yesterday
  • While driving in rush hour
  • While piloting a helicopter…during your pilot training
  • After finding out you’re not the father after claiming you never was and Maury finally proved it and you’re in the back of the studio gloating about how she’s a ho and one of the producers brings the cake she still had that was supposed to be for her wedding but the groom died by getting hit by a delivery truck that ironically contained ingredients for homemade chocolate cake. Time loop? Cake loop
  • While writing opinion posts on your laptop while praying your keyboard doesn’t become tasty and sticky

Those are probably some good times. Anybody else have anything to add?

Dante Positive: The Kindness Van

There are a couple of retired folks who are driving around in a van, giving out food and other things for free. They pay out of pocket, although they do get donations to keep on trucking…or vanning?

The link goes to a video. You will need to watch it.

One of the things the woman was talking about was how we are basically in a society where getting something with no strings attached is so unusual that there is “skepticism” in the whole thing. Isn’t that a shame? We don’t give enough. We don’t share enough. So, when someone does it, it’s very odd.

Is that where we want to live? It’s weird…uncomfotable…awkward…unbelievable…to show kindness. Sorry, that’s not the place for me. Let’s do something about it.

Dante’s Opinion: If He Says You’re Like a Sister, Would He Ever Be Interested in Dating?

I guess at some point I had to run into something close to home.

I really love my guy friend and want to be more than just friends, but he said I’m like a sister to him. Would he ever see me as something more, or is that just in movies?

Well, that’s really interesting. I have a girl who is my sister but we are not related biologically or legally. So, she would be “like a sister” to me. We’ve played with the idea or possibility of something happening but it usually ends with “anything’s possible”. I actually think it’s healthy to address it.

The thing with the two of us, we’ve had a sibling relationship and mindset since we were little kids. We’re in our 20’s now. For us, it would probably take a bit of events to turn that mindset around and become romantically involved.

I will put myself in your shoes and simply state I am in love with her. This is hypothetical. Okay, so let’s say I am in love with her and I know she’s not returning the favor at this time. Would she ever love me in that way?

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