Marriage

Dante’s Opinion: Do men have “backups”?

It’s another round of questions that I offer my opinion on. This first one is from a DALANEL reader. Chocolate Vent asks:

I am a single woman who has several male friends. I do have a few “backup” choices – guys that have expressed genuine interest in marrying me – but I’m not attracted to them (no physical attraction, no romantic chemistry, etc.). As I go further into my thirties I am seriously starting to consider marrying one of these “backup choices”. And I know I am not the only one who feels this way – a lot of women have “backups” in the event we do decide to get married & have not yet met our dream mate. My question is this: Do men have “backups”? I would think not considering men have far more options than we do, but I am curious if a man would rather be alone or marry a female friend who will “make do” as his wife. What are your thoughts on this?

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Daily Good Stuff 204: Happy Anniversary!

It’s my parent’s anniversary today so we’ve got a couples themed post.

Every good relationship, especially marriage, is based on respect. If it’s not based on respect, nothing that appears to be good will last very long. Amy Grant

He answered,  ”Have you not read that he who created them from the beginning made them male and female, and said,’Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.” Matthew 19:4-6

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When A Great Relationship Ends

Yeah, I don’t normally go all in on my personal life like this but writing is always a way to vent out feelings. And perhaps there’s a good message in here too. Recently, I have come to terms with the end of what used to be a fantastic relationship. As you may know, I have quite a few relationships where people are sisters to me. I guess I lost a sister.

Most of us have that relationship where you’re really close. You talk about everything and anything. The most serious and the most silly. By the way, this wasn’t a romantic relationship. She’s a family member. Anyway, we had great times and memories. But, over time, we drifted.

Once you have to actually schedule a time just to talk to someone, the relationship isn’t as strong as you’d like.

Yeah, I’ll be honest, and I say this even though I may seem like I’m not being truthful, but I feel like she didn’t do enough to keep things together for us. It takes two; I get it. But, I still feel like I gave it my all while she gave it only 50%. And, if she did give 100%, and it still wasn’t working, then the relationship still has to end. Either way, this conclusion seemed inevitable.

It seemed like this was destined to happen for the past two years. And yet, we still tried. But it was like trying to resuscitate a dead person. At some point, ya gotta call it. Pull the plug, bro. That’s what I did a few days ago. I finally said it’s over and there’s no going back.

Sheesh, this sounds like a breakup.

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