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Daily Good Stuff 204: Happy Anniversary!

It’s my parent’s anniversary today so we’ve got a couples themed post.

Every good relationship, especially marriage, is based on respect. If it’s not based on respect, nothing that appears to be good will last very long. Amy Grant

He answered,  ”Have you not read that he who created them from the beginning made them male and female, and said,’Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.” Matthew 19:4-6

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Dante’s Opinion: “I am consumed with negative thoughts how do I stop?”

Another week of questions. Keep in mind, my answers to these questions are just my opinion. I’m no professional in any area. Our first question is from purplekoolaid:

The past 2 days have gotten the best of me. I am extremely overwhelmed with anxious feelings that my stomach has been churning pretty much. It’s causing me to have to poop more frequently. Which is weird I’m usually not ever having to. It’s sort of like a feeling you have before you start school in the fall. Or take a test. But it won’t go away. I’m not even in school I’m 24!

I think it’s for many reasons. I am hating my new job I have been working there for a month. Plus I am stressed because I am consumed with thoughts of seeing my boyfriend and leaving this job. We are long distance and I just wanna pack up and move away to be with him already. I have anxiety that I will never see him again if I don’t make a move because we are in different countries. I just worry about things that aren’t even happening. I’m scared I will lose his love etc.

I’m 24. I am also noticing these feelings right before I start my cycle and I know what is happening but it’s hard for me to control this sadness within me.

Whew! This is tough. In a general thought, I would suggest get some spiritual help. All of this stress can be managed by God if you accept Jesus into your life. Now, to go deep into the question. In these tough economic times, quitting a job seems foolish. However, it’s proven that doing something you hate can have serious impacts on your health, as you…uh, described. Leave the job or at least find another one and then quit. As for the boyfriend, that’s something I can speak to from a little experience. I talked about my long distance relationship with my cousin. It’s not the same exact thing but it’s something. Anyway, as I said before, turn to God for peace. Ultimately, you obviously need peace and God can give you that peace. Also, talking to your boy friend can be a good idea too. See where he stands in the relationship or how he feels. No sense leaving everything to go be with a guy who may not even have strong feelings for you.

Next, we have Matthew Cammarata:

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When A Great Relationship Ends

Yeah, I don’t normally go all in on my personal life like this but writing is always a way to vent out feelings. And perhaps there’s a good message in here too. Recently, I have come to terms with the end of what used to be a fantastic relationship. As you may know, I have quite a few relationships where people are sisters to me. I guess I lost a sister.

Most of us have that relationship where you’re really close. You talk about everything and anything. The most serious and the most silly. By the way, this wasn’t a romantic relationship. She’s a family member. Anyway, we had great times and memories. But, over time, we drifted.

Once you have to actually schedule a time just to talk to someone, the relationship isn’t as strong as you’d like.

Yeah, I’ll be honest, and I say this even though I may seem like I’m not being truthful, but I feel like she didn’t do enough to keep things together for us. It takes two; I get it. But, I still feel like I gave it my all while she gave it only 50%. And, if she did give 100%, and it still wasn’t working, then the relationship still has to end. Either way, this conclusion seemed inevitable.

It seemed like this was destined to happen for the past two years. And yet, we still tried. But it was like trying to resuscitate a dead person. At some point, ya gotta call it. Pull the plug, bro. That’s what I did a few days ago. I finally said it’s over and there’s no going back.

Sheesh, this sounds like a breakup.

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