This should be simple. What could go wrong?

I’m a guy and yesterday night I visited a relative in NYC (I lodge in New Jersey). While waiting for the elevator to return there was another guy who amicably started conversation with me.

He noticed my accent and said he has been in France, and then asked repeatedly from which city I come from and whether I’m married (I’m not expert in American culture, but I think this is a bit intrusive, although finally I just threw some random city’s name as he kept asking, and said no I’m not married, and I thought it was common in the US to be asked that question and to give answer).

In the elevator, he stood very near to me, and this was uncomfortable (the elevator was empty). I moved near the panel and he moved too, and whispered in my ear (!) whether I’d want to go to his place. And then he said very obscene things that I prefer not to divulge here.

As soon as the door was opened I just stormed out and hailed a cab. I said nothing to this guy. Now that I think of it I’m quite angry and maybe I should have confronted him or notified the concierge? I also wonder whether I should tell my relatives that probably there is a weird guy living on their floor? What unsettles me is that they live in a good neighborhood, nothing like the Bronx or whatever I’ve seen in movies.

But then again I’m not from this country (I’m staying with a cousin in New Jersey) and don’t know it this is common? I don’t ask my cousin because she’s female and this might make her uncomfortable.

Oh! Ooooooh! OH!

Aye, so first guess is this guy wanted some French vanilla. Unless he was joking around, I think he was looking for some casual sex or something. Maybe not casual. Maybe rough. I don’t know but I hope your back wasn’t to him. This isn’t funny; that’s why I’m sitting here LMAO at my comments. I just said it’s not funny. I’m sorry.

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So disappointed. Here’s the story:

Is this a case of assault or just bad manners? Say, at school, a 14 year old girl is scribbling on her desk out of boredom. The male teacher, who is in his 40s/ 50s, is teaching the class. He notices what the girl is doing and raises his voice, directing the whole class’ attention to the girl. He then commands the girl to stand up and write something on the whiteboard as punishment.

He then walks up to the girl, which stops and surprises/ shocks her, tells her off in a nasty and inappropriate way. He raises his fist – which is holding two markers – for a few seconds in the air. The girl thinks he is going to hit her in the face so she flinches. The teacher doesn’t hit her, but instead slams the markers on her desk with a heavy CRASH, so loud it gives her a throbbing headache, blows out her ear drums, makes her heart drop to her stomache, and perspires.

Even though the student is a girl, she is certainly being roughly mistreated. The teacher has a history of having a bad temper, and has been rude to other students which resulted in him geing kicked out of school once. He returned to promise “good behaviour” before this incident.

Is raising objects at someone assault? Also is slamming on desks deliberately making loyd noises threathening and intimidating behaviour?

I don’t know where to start, but here we go.

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How did we get here?

Would you call a cake without icing a cake? My friends and I are having a dispute. Some of them think a cake is only a cake when it has icing but others are saying a cake is a cake no matter what. Help us settle this dispute it is tearing our friend group apart

Well, I would imagine that cake is cake regardless of icing or “topping”. In fact, there’s a saying society uses very often: “Icing on the cake”. It’s cake before the icing. There are also other kinds of cake that don’t have icing like fruit cake. Ice cream cake would be ice cream cake without the frosting. I like ice cream cake.

Um, but let me offer something else. I’m hoping you are exaggerating because if this “dispute” is tearing you guys apart…I mean, come on. Come on. Come. On.

Anybody got any cake?

The timeless debate.

Do you prefer chocolate or vanilla?

It depends. Here are three areas if we want to specify:

• Taste
• Scent
• Color

Taste

Usually, you find chocolate and vanilla via ice cream as the hot topic of which is better. I definitely prefer chocolate over vanilla ice cream. But then, it gets hard from there. There is chocolate candy but then white chocolate candy. Vanilla with the Coke or Pepsi. Chocolate and Vanilla don’t meet that often, which is really interesting. Ultimately, tasting chocolate anything is a treat while tasting vanilla is not something I do on purpose.

Scent

Have you even been to Hershey Park and ride that…I forget what it’s called but it takes you through the process of how the chocolate is made. Anyway, there’s a part of the ride that is filled with chocolate scent. It’s a nice scent. I like smelling chocolate. HOWEVER, I also like the scent of vanilla. Geez. If I go with candles, it’s going to be vanilla. You know, they have body spray with chocolate scent. When I saw that, I actually got a little sick. So yeah, vanilla.

Color

Paint. Clothes. Light (c’mon, this lighting designer HAD to mention light). These two are definitely used as identification of color. So, which is better to look at? That’s a tough call because I don’t know when I’ve seen these colors in my every day life. It’s funny; at least with the RGB color model, vanilla and chocolate are part of the same hue. Well, sort of. Chocolate is from the Orange-Brown hue while Vanilla is from the Orange-Yellow hue. That’s too funny. Since I know light, I will base my preference on that. When I look at those colors, I like the appearance of vanilla more.

So, there you have it. Out of those three categories, I guess I prefer vanilla. I literally just learned something new about myself today. Wow.

Ah, this should be interesting.

Would you forgive your partner for anything because you don’t want to be alone?

Obviously, the key element in the question is “don’t want to be alone”, with “anything” being a wide range of stuff.

But, here’s the thing, forgiving someone does not necessarily mean you’ll stay with your partner. So, I’m wondering if this question was meant to go down a path of “take him back” because of not wanting to be alone.

I can forgive anything. I’m commanded to, anyway. But, would I take you back for “anything”? No. There are some lines for me that you just can’t cross. I am not afraid of being alone. To enter and remain in a relationship to avoid that is a mistake.