Dante’s Opinion: Can a girl and guy be best friends?

Well now, let’s take a look at this one:

Ok so I’m 16 she is 15 and my friends tell me that we can’t always just be best friends but why not and that it will turn into something else? I mean sure we do spend most of our time together I get along better with her than anyone else I know we always hang out together and play games, draw or even just quietly read together cause idk it just feels nice that way.

And yeah when my college classes are over she always meets me outside and we will go hang around town and have fun. We text and facetime all the time sure but is this really weird behavior for best friends? We can stay best friends like this right?

I’m not sure where it came from that opposite genders can’t be just best friends. It’s very true that it can grow into something more simply because of how you are wired. But, it seems like it doesn’t have to be that way, automatically.

Fact is, for me, the majority of close relationships have been with a female. And I’m talking about outside of the family, here. I think the last time I had a best friend who was a guy was second grade, which is also the last time I had a best friend in general.

I think what you two do is completely adorable fine. Best friends do this all of the time. It just so happens you’re opposite genders. People can be of different races. Believe in different religions. I think anybody can be best friends with anybody.

Can it grow into something more? Sure it can. Nothing wrong with that. But, don’t let that determine your relationship. Don’t worry about what others say. You know what kind of relationship you have. You know how you feel. That’s all that matters.

Dante’s Opinion: When is the best time to have homemade chocolate cake?

Oh this is gonna be something. Here is the question:

When is the best time to have homemade chocolate cake?

What? See, the problem with this is that the question should be “when is not the best time?” But, ya know what, here is a list of times to eat homemade chocolate cake:

  • Right now
  • At dinner time
  • On lunch break
  • At that guy you sort of knew’s funeral
  • While pooping
  • While watching…whatever
  • Saturday all the way through next Saturday
  • In front of that evil diabetic kid
  • In front of that old diabetes guy from the commercials
  • With chocolate milk
  • When you have nowhere to go so the sugar crash isn’t a problem
  • Right before the chair
  • Right before you purposefully commit a sin
  • After getting thrown out of the house by your boo and you head over to mom’s house and eat the cake she made yesterday
  • While driving in rush hour
  • While piloting a helicopter…during your pilot training
  • After finding out you’re not the father after claiming you never was and Maury finally proved it and you’re in the back of the studio gloating about how she’s a ho and one of the producers brings the cake she still had that was supposed to be for her wedding but the groom died by getting hit by a delivery truck that ironically contained ingredients for homemade chocolate cake. Time loop? Cake loop
  • While writing opinion posts on your laptop while praying your keyboard doesn’t become tasty and sticky

Those are probably some good times. Anybody else have anything to add?

Dante Positive: The Kindness Van

There are a couple of retired folks who are driving around in a van, giving out food and other things for free. They pay out of pocket, although they do get donations to keep on trucking…or vanning?

The link goes to a video. You will need to watch it.

One of the things the woman was talking about was how we are basically in a society where getting something with no strings attached is so unusual that there is “skepticism” in the whole thing. Isn’t that a shame? We don’t give enough. We don’t share enough. So, when someone does it, it’s very odd.

Is that where we want to live? It’s weird…uncomfotable…awkward…unbelievable…to show kindness. Sorry, that’s not the place for me. Let’s do something about it.

Dante’s Opinion: If He Says You’re Like a Sister, Would He Ever Be Interested in Dating?

I guess at some point I had to run into something close to home.

I really love my guy friend and want to be more than just friends, but he said I’m like a sister to him. Would he ever see me as something more, or is that just in movies?

Well, that’s really interesting. I have a girl who is my sister but we are not related biologically or legally. So, she would be “like a sister” to me. We’ve played with the idea or possibility of something happening but it usually ends with “anything’s possible”. I actually think it’s healthy to address it.

The thing with the two of us, we’ve had a sibling relationship and mindset since we were little kids. We’re in our 20’s now. For us, it would probably take a bit of events to turn that mindset around and become romantically involved.

I will put myself in your shoes and simply state I am in love with her. This is hypothetical. Okay, so let’s say I am in love with her and I know she’s not returning the favor at this time. Would she ever love me in that way?

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Dante’s Opinion: My Friend Acts Like My Mom; What Do I Do?

It just gets weird.

So she always texts me on weekends saying it’s time to go to bed and she sets bed times for me. And if I cuss or something, she will like take my phone or make me write sentences or make me go to bed early. I have to go to bed at 8:00 pm this Friday because I was being rude. And also I got a bad grade on a math homework and when that happened, she took my phone because she says the reason I did bad was because I stayed up on my phone. And now she prints extra math sheets for me all the time and if I don’t do them, then I get punished. And sometimes she yells at me in front of our friends. What do I do?

I’m still trying to decide if this is a real story. This might be the strangest thing I’ve run across doing this series.

Is this person like, the same age as you? The heck? I’m trying to figure out why she thinks she can treat you like this but then I flip and think, why are YOU letting this happen? She can’t just do this to you. She’s…for God’s sake she’s not your mom!

I don’t do this to my sisters, and people have accused me of being their parent. I’m gonna show them this!

You have a mom, right? Like, this friend isn’t filling in a void or something, right? I mean, there’s one thing about looking out for your friends but this is too far.

I made a mistake. I shouldn’t have taken this one. This is beyond wild. Okay; your question was what should you do.

  1. Put her in her place. She is not yo momma. Keep it friendly and cool. You don’t want to start anything. But, if I’m right about this person, she’s going to escalate things.
  2. Drop her as a friend…especially since she’s not acting as a friend in the first place.

No matter what, this current relationship must end. Get out of there!

Dante’s Opinion: Can I get in trouble for pissing off a telephone scammer?

I needed a good laugh! Here’s the question:

Can I get in trouble for pissing off a telephone scammer? A scammer called me on the phone earlier and was trying to tell me I owed thousands of dollars to the IRS, I’ve had many of these scam calls in the past but ignored them but today I picked up and went, “Oh, thank god, someone to talk to. I’ve had THE WORST week.” and proceeded to tell him everything that happened this week and he got really annoyed because I wouldn’t let him speak, I just went on and on for about ten minutes and eventually he got angry and started cursing me out before ending the call lol.

No, you won’t get in trouble. You didn’t threaten or anything. In fact, what you did was exactly what I am going to do next time I get a call like that. Last time I simply played along without giving too much information.

I’m impressed that dirt bag stayed on the line with you that long.

Please continue posting more stories like that. Y’all keep this up and I’m gonna have to start a new series on the funniest calls with phone scammers.