What is going on!?

I am the only girl in my AP Physics class at school. The class has a lot of homework. A group of us students like to get together in the evening and do our home work. When we started this we would rotate whose house we went to do the homework. Now the guys want to come to my house to do the home work all the time.

I thought that was probably because if we have a problem we can not solve, the guys ask my mom for help and she always has the answer or maybe because when our homework is done, mom give the guys homemade pie and ice cream, cake, or cookies.

I was curious so I ask the guys why they always wanted to do our homework at my house. What they told me just blew me away. They said it was because my mom was so nice, so beautiful, so hot and so sexy they wanted to be around her. It is true mom is VERY BEAUTIFUL but she is not hot and sexy. She has a great figure but she NEVER shows any cleavage or wears tight sweaters.

How should I feel about what these guys are thinking about my mom? Are all guys this way?

So many things. The first sentence told me what was coming. That part was easy.

Welp, the fact that the guys even told you how they felt about your mom was actually interesting. They probably don’t see it as a problem; and I would agree. It’s really not an issue to think someone is attractive. You don’t because that’s your freaking mom but, hey, your dad isn’t the only person that would want to “hit that”. Aye!

I mean, as long as they don’t act on those feelings, it’s not a problem. I guess if someone told me they thought my mom was hot and sexy, I’d need a seat to pull myself together but I honestly would not be bothered. I’d feel a little awkward about it, for sure. But, this isn’t a terrible thing.

Now, if are uncomfortable with this and want it to stop, you have some options:

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Oh boy.

On Friday night, I snuck out and went to a hotel party with two of my best friends and fairly knew and trusted everyone around me. I drank a little bit but was still aware of everything happening around me. I got tired pretty fast and ended up falling asleep on the bed next to my best friend and before everyone else. In the middle of the night, when everyone was asleep I noticed someone crawled into the bed also but was so tired I didn’t pay much attention to it. Then, I woke up in the middle of this guy having sex with me while I was asleep. I was freaking out but didn’t say anything and pretended to stay asleep because I was so terrified. Is that considered rape or is it my fault I didn’t say no? What do I do? I’m 15 years old and I can’t stop thinking about this.

You certainly don’t need my opinion to tell you that you were raped. That’s just how the law works and there’s no real interpretation. If you didn’t say “yes”, then you were raped. End of story on that one.

I’d love to mention how you need to really stay home, you little 15 year old kid, but whatever.

Right, so you need to tell mommy and daddy about this immediately. You’ll be scolded for going out in the first place but yeah, they will make sure that monster is put away. How old was the guy? I mean, Jesus, this could really be a horrific thing we’re talking about.

Tell your parents.

This was a dark story, kids. But, this is easy to handle. Let’s go:

Ok so I’ve always been a very nice and kind person. I’m willing to help out others and favors but at times it ends up badly. I had some friends that thought I was such a sweetheart and fun to be around with but they NEVER EVER invited me anywhere and also when we make plans and they just blow me off. Some lied and said they had to cancel or work but in reality, they went to other events and they even said it right in front of me. I didn’t want to look upset but I just brushed it off and told them it was ok. My dad has been warning me that those people aren’t my friends and he’s seen the way they have treated me. My dad told me that the problem is is that I’m way too nice to people and you forgive them when they hurt me and sometimes I’m going to have to be a but rude to avoid being hurt. I don’t like being mean. I’m too nice, soft and polite. I always obey my teachers, follow EVERY rule and I just can’t be mean. My peers got very annoyed with me because I never get angry when someone does bad to me or don’t get into trouble. One of them said, “Jeez, do you EVER get in trouble?”

Anyways They invited me to a graduation party and said they would call me. I went home and got ready. I called them but they didn’t answer. I called 4 times and they didn’t answer. Then I called the house phone and her dad picked up and told me she and her friends left an hour ago. I was hurt and shocked and ended up not going and missing the party. I heard the girls encouraged her not to call me or not have me tag along. I was HURT when I say that. My dad was like, Shut up! Just shut up. I don’t wanna hear it. I TOLD you they weren’t your friends! I’ve been trying to tell you that for months. To put it bluntly, you need to stop being so nice and be more assertive!” My mom said, “We tried to keep you from getting hurt and you got MAD! You had no right to get angry at us. You wouldn’t listen. Time to find some new friends.”

Whew! This is one of the longest sto-eh, well let me go ahead and answer.

Your parents are right about this:

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A tough question:

Is it okay for a 17 year old to date a 19/nearly 20 year old?

Okay, I am going to say yes, but this is a weird situation. Thing is, this is an adult dating a minor so, technically, this is creepy. But then, there’s barely an age gap. Like, this age gap really doesn’t exist; but there is a wall between you.

In the end, y’all can go out to movies and dinner but you’d better wait on anything physical. Wait until you are both adults. But yeah, dating doesn’t have to even go that far so there’s no issue here.

My first sister and I are roughly 3 years apart. We’re both in our 20s but would I be comfortable with her at 17 dating someone my age (20)? Eeeehhhh…not completely but, again, if they ain’t doing anything, his penis wouldn’t be in jeopardy, then there’s nothing really wrong with it. I would just have to get over my feelings while also probably stalking them on dates like the ninja I am.

Have fun!